The Love Doctor

The beauty about being infatuated with someone is that it makes you dumb during that period and allows you to accept everything even though, logically thinking, you know that you may not like or probably can’t stand certain characteristics or traits of your partner.

Sadly, Infatuation doesn’t last forever. If it does, there is either something wrong with you or you are truly deeply in love with your partner. Some will discover unacceptable issues with their partners within 6 months and will decide to end it while others may take years. There are however those that would try to make things work even though they don’t see things in the same view with their partner. Or they just choose to ignore those little bites.

So, if your relationship lasts for more than 6 months, it is definitely leaning towards a Long Term Relationship.

So just how long is TOO LONG? There are couples that have been together for just a year and decides to end their relationship. While there are those that got attached during their adolescences, hits a decade together, and still leaves each other. Whether it was mutual or one sided, it is rather common in this era that “Happily Ever After” only exists in the Fairy Tales. Women aren’t submissive as in the olden days and Men aren’t going to change themselves either.

Whether or not you are a strong believer of the ancient practices of partnership, you need to know that times have changed. Both parties need to understand each other and one party must be on the “losing” or accepting end at times. Else it won’t work out.

You are not perfect, so don’t expect your partner to be.

The longer you stay in your relationship, the more you will be able to learn from it. You will see many changes in your partner and yourself. Some of the common feelings would be like:

• Things do not seem as sweet as it was it the first 3 months.
• For Men: You feel like your girl sticks to you because you are providing her in many ways more than one. Like you are her ATM?
• For Women: You feel like a sex slave. The only time you see him happy with you is when you give in to him and let him have sex with you.
• Your partner seem to be keeping things from you.
• You feel like your partner lies to you about his/her whereabouts. Doesn’t respond to your calls or texts when he/she is out? Will reply to you very late in a quiet place or in the toilet.
• Your partner don’t miss you anymore.
• Your partner is becoming busy out of a sudden and doesn’t bother informing you why.

There may be other feelings but the main point here is you don’t feel happy with your partner anymore. So if it is about trust issues, can you work things out?

As for men that feels like your partner doesn’t love you but is holding on to you still because you benefit her more than one ways especially money, should you allow her to hold on to you?

Will talking about it to your partner make the situation better?

Well, my advice is if you can forgive your partner for cheating on you and you are willing to give your partner another chance, you should try talking about it to your partner.

Else, tell your partner it is over. No point dragging on a relationship that doesn’t make you happy. Whether you are married or had invested many years into your relationship, this applies to all.